Just Curious: How exactly do we all get to sleep at night?

“It came to mind. When we really think of it, how exactly do we get to sleep at night, whilst all this shit goes on around us?”

You know the wars and the suffering. A more refined version of my question is this: how do we get to sleep at night whilst just one of our children is suffering. It’s my opinion, that there only needs to be one suffering child in the world, for the rest of us to be living a charade.

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Shed some light on the real charade

It’s easy when we see it, in order to sleep, all we do is put the horrors from our minds. In fact, it would be detrimental to our health, if those of us who’re looking to help in this regard (easing the suffering of children), didn’t. If we don’t sleep our health will also be damaged.

“Yet the question remains and gets even bigger: how can we live the ridiculous charade of modern life whilst children suffer?”

Wouldn’t true equality be for ALL of us to be suffering in the same way our abused children currently are? And so how exactly could we find this type of equality? Perhaps we could make do with slightly less, or perhaps we could self flagellate; you know, the thing with the whips. Hold on though, some of us humans are turned on sexually by that shit, (because of violence confused with pleasure in childhood) and so then we’re into pleasure through sadism, so no, that doesn’t work.

“Hold on, I tell you what we could do, we could imagine ourselves back in childhood.”

We could then lock ourselves in a dark, cold room, full of unknown horrors (imagined or real), and get someone to call in, on a regular basis, to beat us and commit annul rape; that could work. Oh, then we’d need to sort out our diet. Yeah, now I’m on a role.

For a start, we could feed ourselves with sugar and shitty processed food, and then wash it all down with pop! For entertainment we could have a TV, phone and nothing else, and just to make our suffering all the worse, we could be surrounded by people who’re unable to listen, have very limited vocabulary, limited skills, limited imagination and don’t give a shit about anything or anyone else outside their limited scope of attention. Limited company to say the least.

“I think we need more! There’s always more of this shit.”

Outside our window we’d need to have bombs going off and we’d also need to see women and children being slaughtered, and all on a daily basis, yay! Oh, and let’s not forget the starving children, sitting in the dust, with their swollen bellies and fly’s in their crusty eyes. Our charity has certainly fixed that one, hey? Now, I wonder if we have enough fear and discomfort, to match that of an abused child yet? Probably not.

“I just can’t help wondering: how do we all sleep at night when there’s one of our children living like this?”

A child – in a civilised society – living with this fear. There’s no fear for us though: most of us can live in our lovely homes, jump in our comfortable cars, ride in our beautiful planes, feed on our lush vegetation, and chomp on our farmed lamb (remember the mint sauce). Why should we give a damn about all the suffering, abused children of the world, when we have all this! And of course whilst we do, we don’t.

“Never assume the answer to alleviating our guilt, is to give charitably, this is no answer at all. The answer, is to be aware; aware of the suffering of the abused child. Until we choose awareness, nothing will change.”

When we choose to wake up to what’s going on around us – instead of being lost to the illusions of comfort we propagate and blinded by our ignorance – only then we will fight the abuse and ignorance. When we cut-away all the nonsense of modern day life, it’s possible to clearly see, what our children have needed all along: More. Love. There’s more of that too. Just look. א

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A Malevolent Smile

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Were the Vikings evil? Or do we think them brave conquerors? 

When it comes to personal beliefs, one thing I’ve always refused to believe in, is evil. It’s my belief that evil is often confused with fear or lack. Also, when we’re unable to explain away the actions of our fellow man, evil is often used as a ‘get-out-clause.’

“When we say: “What an evil person” this relieves us of our responsibility to the child they once were. We feel less guilt when we label certain individuals as evil.”

There is an important distinction for me to draw here: even though we may refuse to believe in evil, it doesn’t automatically follow, that the beliefs others may hold, doesn’t make evil relevant in the world today. In other words, others, who believe that evil exists, and indeed that it has a power, make evil, and the network of beliefs that built it, something that has force or energy. Believe in anything and we give that ‘anything’ energy.

Imagine you believed that evil has as much right, to be a relevant force here on earth, as the belief in love does. Imagine how it would be, believing the force of evil to be strong, and that following a path, the beliefs in evil dictate, will in fact get you all the things you desire here on earth. Imagine you believed that there was no such thing as love and that evil – inasmuch as self-centeredness is a correct way to be –  will award you a good if not fine standard of life.

“In fact, we don’t actually need to believe in evil at all, we simply need to lack the belief that it’s important to do the right thing by our fellow man, and that there is such a thing as the love of all people and love of truth.”

Is it not the case, that consideration for our fellow man, is borne of beliefs related to love? If we lack belief, this is simply as effective, as there actually being something like a force of evil.

Very recently I meet a famous individual. He’s very rich, very popular, flamboyant, and doesn’t shy away from exhibiting his wealth. Good luck to him you might say, and to some extent, I would agree. The only problem, I have with the financially wealthy though, are their lies. Be wealthy by all means, just don’t feel you need to protect yourself – or place yourself on some kind of pedestal – through lying. It is NOT money that makes wealthy people happy, it’s busy, creative lives, that does that. Never feed into the illusion, that wealthy people often project (to the young), that it’s their wealth making them happy.

“Buying into this illusion will ultimately lead to unhappiness, perhaps even despair. It’s no wonder so many of our young feel despairing. They’re being fooled by the lies of those who create illusion to maintain their popularity.”

Sure, money’s nice, it’s a lovely facilitator, however, some of the happiest people I’ve known in the past, would have been considered poor by modern standards. Believe it or not, the reason they, and those now like them, are happy and contented, is because they’re surrounded by love. It seems to me, that it can often be a one or the other situation: Love or Money; no doubt also a belief.

I feel we can take this slightly further than belief though. The reason I feel this way, is because of the evidence. If it’s simply the money you’re after, I really doubt you’ll be a happy, loving individual. Alternatively, if by consequence of being extremely good and happy with what you’re doing, you get rich, this is a different situation entirely.

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Arriving by helicopter isn’t all it’s cracked-up to be

The chemistry for being wealthy – and happy – is simply to have made your money through doing the things you love. What I sensed, from the pop star I recently met, was a high degree of arrogance and loneliness, (not to mention the malevolent smile). Money can no doubt offset a lot of loneliness – and excuse an arrogance the young look-up to – just be sure you make a lot of it, as fighting off loneliness, is an expensive business. Be wealthy, yet never believe you can Cheat-am all, all of the time, I’m not that easily fooled. א

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Inside Information

From time to time we meet certain people and think: WTF? Before swiftly moving on, the vast majority of the time, WTF? is all we think.  We realise that spending too much time trying to work out exactly WTF is going on, in some people’s minds, is, as a general rule, a complete waste of time.

That said, when it comes to using time constructively, it may well be appropriate to use some of it considering the confusing – if not downright bizarre behaviour of others – if it’s likely to help us have an easier time of things.

“And let’s face it, if not for those people who, for often inexplicable reasons, leave us feeling bewildered, confused, frustrated or even angry, life would be far too black and white.”

Odd people add colour to our lives and that’s exactly how we should think of them: colourful. Mad but colourful all the same.

Take for example The Antagonist. These are people who simply have an uncanny ability to piss us off, bring us down, or just leave us wanting to take a knife to their throats. The Germans actually have a word for the phenomena these people live with: Schadenfreude. That’s right, people who enjoy pissing others off, they really do exist! The Schadenfreude is a person who enjoys the discomfort of others.

If we were to sum-up these people, and place one of those nasty little labels on them, we’d call them self-centered. The self-centered person has very little self-awareness. They go through life believing that everything they say and do, must be all about them, and no one else. The comfort and wellbeing of others is simply missing from the self-centered persons radar.

“Others have simply dropped away, like a plane gone missing, and their black-box-voice-recorder is recording you as white noise. Just an indistinguishable sound in the background. We need to avoid self-centered people; they’ll bring us down.”

One advantage, to understanding the self-centered person, is that once we’re able to do this, we can easily eradicate this nasty trait from within ourselves. Never misunderstand me, I’ve never been on the same page as those who think we should put others before ourselves (there’s really no such thing), however, I do believe, unless we learn a valuable lesson in the importance of sharing (and what we share), we’re buggered.

“Our awareness of what we give is always amplified.”

In other words (and to point out the dangers of this), if all we give is antagonism, we then become constantly antagonised ourselves. If our self-centeredness is antagonising to others, we will become increasingly alone, through being rejected of any meaningful connection. In a sense, the self-centered person sends out what they are: a very lonely and unconnected person. Self-centeredness leads to loneliness. We become antagonised by our confusion over this loneliness and our disconnection from others.

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Put others back on your radar

“The flip side of this coin, is to ensure that what we send out (share) is always of a positive, loving nature. Amplify that, and we begin to find a greater sense of a contented connection, to others.”

What we must all learn – so we may fight off the self-centered antagonists within and around us – is this contentedness and connection. Through sharing a positive and loving nature, always holding a fascination for others, we remove self-obsession and meaningfully put others back on our radar.

“We all enjoy being around interested people, for they, are the interesting people.”

So there we are: colourful can be nice, if a little confusing from the mouth of the mad, self-centered individual, remember though, we all have something to learn from each other and those things that annoy and frustrate us the most about people, are the true gold: they teach us about those things we deny in ourselves. As for black and white? well, I much prefer my humans to be of either variety, and leave the colourful, to the birds.

The Best Part of Your Life (that no one can tell you about)

“Childhood, plain and simple. Or should I say: Childhood ‘ought’ to be the best part of your life.”

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Play Time

Are children being robbed of their childhood? Our young are being so wrapped-up with achieving. The privileged and the underprivileged have the same dilemma.  The privileged obviously have a greater chance of achieving, albeit with the mental issues associated with placing too higher demands on a child. The underprivileged are also wrapped-up with achieving, yet simply due to their status and given opportunities in life, fail, only to sink deeper and further into the abyss of drug taking and antisocial behaviour.

Also we have the issue of parenting. We all know the pressure society places on us as parents, and we all know the difficulties we face, however, if we just let go a little, and stopped trying so hard, we could award our children with an improved, freer childhood.

The pressure, for youngsters to achieve, is so high now, that increasing numbers of our teenagers are living with mental health problems, and their general wellbeing is on the slide. Self harm, drugs (prescription or otherwise) and labels of conditions – that seem to excuse the causes – are so commonly used, that we no longer know whether we’re coming or going. Confusion presides.

My own childhood was plagued by mental illness. From the arguments and unbalanced, manic-depressive behaviour of my parents, to full blown breakdown of a sibling. When asked what I believe the cause of all this was – during a seminar many years later – I simply responded by saying: ‘There was too much fear in my childhood and not enough love.’ Too simple for many to cope with.

There is a phrase:

“Teach a child to achieve and they’ll never be contented, teach a child contentment, and they’ll achieve anything.”

To me, this is such a beautiful truism that I believe if we followed its advice, we’d go a long way to giving our children their childhood back. The key is contented and harmonious relationships, and not just with those around us, within ourselves too. We must have harmony and contentment within our minds, in order for us to reach it, for our children.

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If you like, we can think of education as the blade, or cuts of that key, and you are the bow – the part used to actually turn it. Get involved and give our children their childhood back.

  

LOVE

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There’s a massive part of me that thinks: Really, what is the point? And the thing is, I really need to overcome this, or I become pointless too.

If more people asked themselves: What is the point in me? We might live in a better world. So many of my observations come down to age and experience. With this in mind, we must show humility, in terms of understanding, how it once was to be young and foolish. Don’t get me wrong; I don’t assume for a moment that I’m completely over foolishness, I’m not, however with a little love and a little help, we can advance so very, very quickly.

All we need do is apply ourselves and start thinking. Thinking, or not as the case may be, seems to be one of the major reasons why we’re currently experiencing so much turmoil (have we ever been free of turmoil?). When we step back and really consider things before we act, life would be so much better. It doesn’t take so called intelligence to be a better person either. All we need to do is start thinking.

“Cause and effect: What will/might happen if I say/do this? Is this the correct/loving thing to do? What is the point in my actions/words? What am I looking to achieve?”

All of that we do, that’s of a negative motivation and purpose, is self-destructive. We’ve known for thousands of years that it all comes back to us in the end: what we think and do is what we become. I believe we know, deep down, whether our actions are of good intention or not.

When I was younger, very few of my actions were consciously based on love, and the empowerment of others. The reason for this was simply because of my ignorance. Ignorance, or lack of belief, of the benefits to always being mindful, that what I say and do, must be based on one thing, and one thing only: love. Be cautious if your instinct is to scoff and dismiss this through sounding like a cliché.

“Lack of thought is driving so many of the troubles in the world. People who think like me are openly criticised for over-simplification, yet those who criticise us are only feeding their own self-centered desires to sound clever, through intellectualization.”

There IS a one fix all panacea – the intellectuals dismiss this as over-simplification – and for the very reason it’s not working: they don’t understand it either. They don’t understand love.

Love is empowerment. Love is a: “Hand-up not a hand-out” as John Bird put it. If we all stopped looking for complicated, intellectual solutions, and simply understood the real reasons and value for basing every decision we make (as best we can) on the empowerment of others, the world really could change overnight.

Allow me to give you an example. Why do you imagine the leader of North Korea is so intent on testing missiles? Why does he believe he needs nuclear arms? It’s simple – the simplest answers are always the ones to look for – he’s frightened.

What happens when you corner a frightened animal? What is the fight or flight instinct? Frightened people are dangerous people. He may believe he loves his people and as such believes he needs to protect them. He may believe the rest of the world want’s rid of him. He may feel ostracised and alienated. It would be far better to simply leave him well alone, as you would any cornered, frightened animal.

“Trump is falling into the trap so many frightened people set: to be attacked and rejected.”

What would it take to empower a frightened xenophobic leader? Quite possibly all that’s needed is understanding. Why? How is it he behaves the way he does? Is there any hope for a man who was raised in an atmosphere of paranoia, fear and mistrust? What is the solution to dealing with this person other than violence? How could we empower him and remain safe ourselves?

Consider what kind of world we would live in if every potential parent – understood these questions – and then asked them before procreating:

If love is empowerment what is the correct way to raise a child?

If the authority on parenting is love should we not fully understand it first?

What is self-centeredness and it’s dangers?

How healthy is my relationship and could it be stronger?

Do I understand love?

“I believe all we can sensibly do is look to add more love to the mix. The main issue we must deal with, right now, is our understanding of this force. We must hone and nurture the force of this poorly understood emotion. We must allow our understanding to evolve.”

We can assist this process by understanding why we seek it’s opposites: Why do we fear? Why do we hate? Why do we envy? Why do we control?

All of these things are aspects of the human condition, that raise themselves, simply through the ignorance of their effect on others and ourselves. When we’re taught the value of loving ourselves and our fellow man, from an early age, we have no need for the wisdom that age takes so long to find. When it’s clear to us what love is (empowerment) and we’re taught how to think, and bias our thoughts through the filters of love, we will all have better lives: simple.

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Teach our children how to think and how to love, because it would seem, that right now, we need to add some to the mix.

Teach our children how to think and how to love, because it would seem, that right now, we need to add some to the mix.

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How to Catch a Whale

Use a big net, surely?

“There are some other things to consider, you can’t just sling out a big net and expect your whale to simple swim in. There will need to be some bate. Best case scenario would be to place your net where you already know there are whales. The whales go where the food is. Schools of fish, no doubt. Simple.”

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Large Whale – Large Genitals

Now, you might be wondering: why exactly are we hunting whales? Well, we’re hunting whales, because we’re hungry of course. You can feed a lot of people with a whale.

That said, you might be one of those people who deplores whale hunting; a green warrior or whatever. And after all, they’re such beautiful, gentle creatures, aren’t they? We nearly hunted them to extinction in the past so they’re protected now. Unless your a Chinese scientist that is. I suppose, for the time being at least, whale is off the menu. Hold on though, couldn’t we just farm them?

You know what surprises me the most about world leaders, it’s how appallingly bad they are at explaining their purpose. We might ask them: Why, exactly? How is it you’re one of the world’s leaders? Why are you doing what you’re doing? What is the point of you? And the other thing that surprises me: how is it these people aren’t taken to task more often? How exactly do they get to the position they’re in?

The main problem we have, is the type of people who’re drawn toward politics and world leadership, often have some serious and fundamental character flaws. And the rest of us know it. So the dilemma is, how do we find world leaders who’re emotionally stable, self-aware and capable? A good start, I believe, would be to find potential leaders who truly understand what love is. Who then, armed with this knowledge, are truly capable of loving the people they lead in a clean, clear and exact manner.

“Perhaps the only way to attract such people into leadership is to find them young. A little like the Buddhists do when they track down their new Dalai Lama (non-above). They find him very young.”

Also we need an incentive that’s not driven by an instinctive need to feed the ego. When this is the case things get a bit dodgy, an ego driven leader, can tend to be a little self-centered. The Buddhists have gotten round this, very cleverly, by teaching their young leaders, that there is no ego: no self, clever hey? However clever it is, it’ a bit… how can I put it…? Erm… Let’s just say… Shit.

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Large car – Small genitals

You see, the trouble is, Buddhists don’t have any bombs. No ego – no bombs. It would seem world leaders do need bombs (chemical or whatever). There is a paradox here though, for example, think of men with big cars, why do they own the big car? Generally they have big cars because they have very small genitals (don’t mention lorry drivers). So the paradox is, male world leaders have their egos and their big bombs to compensate for some kind of lack. So it follows, we currently have world leaders who are incomplete. Not good. One thing a leader must be is complete. A whole person. A Whale Person ha ha!

“It reminds me of a woman I went out with once, who, over a few too many glasses of wine, told me about a big bodybuilder she went out with; when they had sex she could hardly feel it was in. “So small!” she giggled, spilling her wine.”

She stopped giggling later. We went out in my Mini the next morning; I let her drive (tut, tut, men, how pathetic). So on that note, I reckon the Dalai Lama must be very well hung. But without the small car and the wine, how does he cope?

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Monkey Dick Peanut Balls

So now we have a prerequisite: would leaders must have large genitals. Or better still: all world leaders must be female – oh no, hold on, I’ve met some real-life monsters who were female, so that doesn’t work. No, whether male or female, the answer must come down to understanding love.

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Swimming to the same direction

So back to the point in question: how do you catch a whale? With a School of Fish and a big Net of course. And the incentive to be a loving world leader? Well, in order to answer that question, you would need to truly understand what love is in the first place, would you not?

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Alter the Filters

Golden Cog Gears with Personal Development Concept.

“Allow me to paint a picture for you. You’re in a dilemma. Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea, as the saying goes. On the one hand you have the option of a gamble – plain and simple.”

You put your money down and then wait and see if your numbers come up. On the other hand you have a private pension, that you’ve ignored for many, many years and yet now feel you’re in a position to start contributing some regular cash, but only if you don’t gamble. It’s a one or the other situation.

The gamble is a business venture, that has no guarantees, no insurance etc, but requires large sums of money before any income is likely to be seen. The pension currently has a pot that’s just about large enough to piss in. You can’t touch this until retirement age and to make the pot bigger, than simply one you could only piss in, you must start contributing, and do this right now.

Option one, you gamble and potentially open up your life in extraordinary ways. Option two, you live a steady, safe and predictable life, feeling relatively comfortable. Neither happy nor unhappy.

Okay, picture painted. Now, the main reason for this dilemma is the fact you don’t gamble. In fact, so averse to gambling are you, that after taking up the offer of a fun night out at the local casino, all that happened was you spent the whole evening desperately trying to win back the two hundred pounds you lost within the first half hour. On returning home, after this ‘fun’ night out, you promptly threw up! That’s an aversion to gambling.

Let me take your mind back. Imagine the main reason for your aversion to gambling is a complex set up by your father. This is to say, during your childhood it was drummed into you, through no uncertain terms, that “gambling is a mug’s game!” Many would agree. However, spending a little time with a Personal Development Coach, Counsellor or Hypnotherapist may well show you some clear and interesting distinctions.

“In business you do need to be prepared to take a gamble. A complex established in childhood, similar to the one described above, will be limiting you.”

The way in which we filter, and as such see and experience our lives, is primarily through our early lessons and the beliefs formed from them. Professional assistance would help you remove these filters (provided they were a Licenced GOLD Counsellors that is) and help you understand the limiting nature of the generalisation: Not ALL gambling is a mugs game.

On the surface you may be thinking: what’s the problem, just be sensible and put your cash into the pension. Surely it’s the better option; the safe option? And my response would be this: Where did playing safe ever get us? When we ask the individual in question about the person who taught them: gambling’s a mugs game, what are we likely to learn? That they led a safe life? Umm… to me, safe means: predictable, boring and humdrum. A sort of half life.

So there we are: If you truly want to live, Alter the Filters. They’re not always there for our better good. Live a little, take a gamble, you’ll never regret it. And besides, retirement, what exactly is that then, time to start dying?

Yes, you do need more

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“After pondering on yesterday’s post I’ve come to the conclusion, when it comes to ‘more,’ I believe we do actually need it.”

Of course, I’m not talking about the dreaded disease of excessive con-sumerism, no, I’m talking about more of what comes for free.

It’s said, nothing in life is free, and if you believe this, then you’re pretty much buggered. For one, you’d struggle to breathe if the air wasn’t free, (although if Donald Trump and the likes ever came to power, he’d probably try and charge that – oh shit, he is in power!).

The other things that are free, thankfully, include: love, compassion, life itself and all human emotion in general. Life may be free, yet many are unable to live a free life, are they not?

So, what does it mean to live a free life? When we consider our early ancestors, who roamed the land as hunter-gatherers, we can clearly see their freedom. It could be said though, that they weren’t in fact truly free. What about the barbarism of early humans? Or indeed all that comes with an underdeveloped sense of what it is to love and how to show compassion for our fellow humans.

“It’s more than easy for us to read – and as the media are so often keen to remind/guilt us of  – the barbaric behaviour of our marauding ancestors. That in itself though, was/is only part of the process of our maturation, was/is it not?”

And have we matured? Perhaps a little. There are so many of us now that hunter-gathering is out of the question, and who’d want to anyway? Spend all day searching for food? The fact that we spend most of the day earning the money we need to feed, clothe and house ourselves is beside the point … oh, um, well, yes. Bollocks.

Anyway, let’s not get sidetracked. More is definitely something we need. Not more of everything though. When we focus our attention on more love, for example, the only true way to gain this – for free – is to give it. That’s right. Such a simple concept.

It’s how it works on social media isn’t it? You know, make a beautiful slide or video that makes people laugh or cry and you’ll get loads of attention: likes, followers, comments etc. This is the way to free love isn’t it? Or is it just a way to feed the ego? Umm.

What about giving away information that would improve people’s lives? Would that get you love for free? Probably not, because very few people actually value, free advice. Pay big money for it, and we’re more likely to act on it, seeing it as having true value, crazy hey?

Crazy, because often the advice we pay for, is worthless. Worthless because those giving it often don’t believe that love is for free. Worthless because it’s so often laced with misinformation. They have something to gain through exploiting a need. Is this just not the way of the world though; the rules of the game?

What about the government? They love us right? They love us enough to force – or coerce – the food industry into putting less sugar in our children’s food. That’s love isn’t it? Well, no, not really. Love is empowering parents by teaching them about boundaries, cause and effect, and about how important it is to take proper responsibility for what children eat.

It is not the responsibility for government to control our diet. It is government’s responsibility to empower its people through education. And so, with this in mind, how is it they’re creating the illusion of love through control? Are they doing this only to be a reflection of the confusion there currently is about love. The confusion that people believe love to be control? We are told after all, and through many means, that love is control.

Love isn’t control of other adults. To properly love adults you empower them with information. Transversely, to empower children we can never allow them to make their own rules, you set the rules (based on love, integrity and compassion) for their benefit, because you supposedly know better, through being educated. Educated by a loving government. Boundaries for children differ greatly to control over adults.

“Boundaries (this is the amount of sugar you can eat my child) are there to teach the child control of the self; self discipline. Being controlled once grown from forces outside of ourselves is inappropriate and limiting. It stunts our development. Governments, who dictate how their people should live, stunt their growth.”

So, back to more love. More love is generated from within. From within is free. When you give what you already have you multiply its power. You make yourself more aware of its influence simply by giving it away in a form that truly benefits your fellow man. You make yourself more aware of what you are.

You can’t force this on people, you can only place it out in the open, in the same way you place seeds for the birds. Patience and time is all you need. Patience and time.

Live long my friends.

A Puppet to Your Beliefs

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Take control of what lies beneath the surface

If every individual took responsibility for themselves, and acted within guidelines based on love and integrity, what kind of world would we live in?

If every parent and teacher understood the power and influence of their beliefs, how would this affect our children?

If you’re unhappy with your life, the expectations of others, or indeed the way of life dictated to you, how would it be if this conflict were to be cured?

Be objective and take a moment to consider the world we live in. Do the troubles of the world outway the comfort, love and happiness we all generally feel? It’s said that even though our quality of life is better than it’s ever been, we’re still not any happier today, than we were a hundred years ago. Staggering when you think of that.

“What can we put this down to? Potentially this has a lot to do with how the realities of life often don’t match our beliefs and expectations. Again, at it’s base, we can consider this a conflict. Conflict between belief, reality and the ideal.”

Consider how, just today, the living wage has risen here in the UK. Does this wage rise mean that all of a sudden two million people are now going to have better lives? On the surface we would say yes, however, once those two million people have grown accustomed to the extra cash, over time they will begin to seek more, leading to unhappiness, once again. The human condition no less. Are we not all just April fools?

What if we had expectations of life that matched, or were slightly lower, than the reality? In other words what if we were already comfortable and contented earning seven pounds twenty per hour? What if the extra thirty pence became a surplus? Would this make us happy; to have more than we need? Most of the world’s population believe they need more than they have. Is this not the root to unhappiness?

Is it not the belief we need more – or at the very least be equal to others – that breeds discontent and unhappiness? What is equality anyway? How would it be if we believe happiness is purpose? And what if we believe that this purpose were to live a simple life, giving of oneself, finding contentment in needing nothing other than the clothes on our backs, roofs over our heads, and food in our bellies? What if we all understood the reasons for why this seems so hard to achieve?

What if we helped children find contentment rather than teaching them to constantly seek achievement? What if we taught children that being great is to live a simple life, living within your means, never taking more than you give to the world? Does this sound like a dream? Does it sound like idealistic claptrap?

It will sound this way if we’re caught up in the world’s beliefs and caught up in the games of our wilful egos’. When we master the driving of our id – our instinctive selves – only then will we find true happiness. Those who have this must live as example to all others.

“The only problem being, these people seem to be in the tiny minority, with the smallest of voices. The thing to remember though, is if you’re seeking to be truly happy, listening to the whispers of the hushed minority, is the game you must now play.”

It is possible, even when living amongst the deafness of this world, to hear, loudest of all, whispers of the wise. Work that one out, if you will.