Loved, Admired and Respected

Why? Why would you want to look at something you don’t consider broken? You might ask: “What’s the point?”

We can draw a comparison by talking for a moment about the ill fated Challenger Shuttle mission of 1986. Imagine what would have happened if NASA scientists had fitted three O-ring joint seals (instead of two) to its solid rocket boosters. Imagine if these seals had also been tested to withstand unusually low temperatures. What do you imagine would have happened?


Yes, that’s exactly right, nothing would have happened, except a safe and successful flight. The 5 astronauts and 2 payload specialists on board would have potentially lived much longer lives.

Of course it’s always easy to criticise and see our mistakes using the power of hindsight, yet this doesn’t mean that we necessarily need hindsight, or accidents for that matter, to see the flaws before the event.

Consider Air France flight 447 of 2009. After the recovery of the black box recorders, some two years later, it was understood that the cause of the crash, and subsequent death of over 200 people, was pilot error. The pilots went into a confused state and simply didn’t know why their aircraft’s autopilot had disengaged and why there flight adjustments had caused the aircraft to go into a fatal stall.


Once again hindsight has taught us a lesson and pilots must now be  trained to deal effectively with the situation, should the same set of circumstances, that befell the pilots of flight 447, ever happen again. However we can still ask: how is it they weren’t trained to deal effectively with the confusion created, through the failure, or shutting down, of the aircraft’s autopilot to begin with? We now know it was relying too heavily, on the aircraft’s autopilot computer, that ultimately caused the disaster.

We too have an autopilot system. Without the autopilot, of our unconscious minds, life would be very challenging indeed. If every time we jumped into our cars, and it felt like the first time we ever had, we’d never go anywhere. Once we have unconscious competence our driving becomes an effortless flow, but switching off conscious control of our cars, is when we have accidents.

Our unconscious can only do so much and self preservation is not within the remit of this part of our minds. It’s a little like the computer that controls the autopilot of our aircraft: it simply does what it’s been programmed to do, and is unable to stray from this, until instructed to do so. In other words, if we leave all aspects of the driving to our unconscious, there’s a high likelihood we’re going to crash and burn.

“Conscious control over our lives means we have less accidents and smoother journeys.”

And so if follows: leaving certain aspects to our lives unguarded causes us problems. We often don’t know that something’s broken until it actually fails. The news is, many things are potentially flawed or broken to begin with. With this said, can we now fully understand those who don’t believe in accidents? Perhaps accidents are simply the fulfilment of something already broken.

Moving forward, when it becomes clear to us, what’s beneath the fundamental programming of our unconscious-autopilots, we’re able to anticipate problems.

“And so it is clear: Our unconscious minds are constantly seeking love, admiration and respect. Even if this love and respect is unconsciously gained through error.”

For example, if a young boy grows up witnessing violence from father to mother or mother to father (physical or verbal), replicating this programming (in one form or another) is how his unconscious mind will look for love, admiration and respect, in later life.

Gaining love through emulating what we’ve witnessed – directly taught in childhood through example – is the remit of our unconscious mind. The unconscious mind, of the boy in our example, is looking for this admiration and respect from those who did the programming. Even suicide bombers are looking for love, admiration and respect from their programmers.